The Biblical Argument Against Marriage
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.
I like this first verse. God wants to make Adam a helper. It doesn’t say God is going to make somebody for Adam to help. No, God wanted to create something to help Adam with the whole Garden of Eden thing going on and so he created a woman. He did not create a woman for her to sit around and be taken care of by the man, he created her to help the man care for the garden. Nor was the woman created to hold authority over the man and tell the man what to do.
Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Uh, oh, now it appears that God is saying men hold authority over women! The biblical patriarchy. This is the thing that the feminist movement is most fighting against. At least, if that is actually what God is saying here. It is important to note who God is saying this to. He did not say “Adam, as a man and husband, you hold authority over women.” Nope, God said something completely different to Adam. Made no mention of holding authority over her to him. Which would appear to mean that the perceived authority that a man has only comes from what the woman perceives in her own mind.
Yeah, interesting stuff here, but, OH MY, what about…
1 Timothy 2:12
I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.
That must totally imply that women are to shut up and obey the authority of men, right? Well, a thinking person would look at this and likely think, well it says that women should not exercise authority over a man. If we understand the definition of authority, then we understand that this is saying that a woman shouldn’t be allowed to force a man to do something. However, this verse still does not imply that a man holds authority over a woman. It does not say men should prevent women from teaching or holding authority over a man, just under the context of the entire passage, it says women holding such positions are not the best choices because of the nature of women.
But what about…
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Men hold authority over women! Check and mate! Right…? Right……..? Right………..? Nope. Submission is a voluntary action. You are not being forced in any way, such that you are not being forced to submit to the lord.
But it says husbands are the head of the wife! Check and mate again! Right…? Nope. There is a difference between being the head and being in authority over someone. If we think of head, we think of the leader. A leader is someone who leads and the rest follow, however a leader is not the person in the back cracking the whip forcing everybody to go one way or another. This leader, or head, decides which direction is best and those following choose for themselves whether they shall follow. We should also take note on who is being talked too because taking the whole passage into account, the men get an entirely different talking to. Heck, let’s put up the men’s lecture:
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Hmm…the whole being the head thing is missing in the men’s lecture. It’s almost as if instead of being told that they are to be the head, leader, or even some kind of authority, they are being told what they should do. Which would mean that the women would look at what the man is doing and follow the man. The man is not the head because he puts himself in a place of authority or appoints himself as the head, he is the head because he does the right things and the woman follows his example.
So now, you may be thinking, wasn’t he trying to make an argument against marriage?
Well yes, I have actually just made a huge argument against marriage, you just may not have seen it. So here is a verse to help you understand:
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop
than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
This verse in many translations use words from nagging and fault finding to quarrelling and brawling. We’re not talking about a simple argument or disagreement, we’re talking about a woman seeing fault in the man and trying to exercise authority over a man to force him to submit to her. Essentially you do not want to marry a woman who is willing to put you into forced submission.
How about another:
With much seductive speech she persuades him;
with her smooth talk she compels him.
All at once he follows her,
as an ox goes to the slaughter,
or as a stag is caught fast
till an arrow pierces its liver;
as a bird rushes into a snare;
he does not know that it will cost him his life.
There is a lot going on in these verses. The entire passage of Proverbs 7 is the argument against chasing women. Men should not chase after women. Why? Because it will cost him his life.
Now you are thinking that surely it can’t be suggesting that women that are chased kill men?
No, because we are looking at life as an abstract concept. Remember the whole authority business? When a man is chasing a woman, he is doing what the woman wants. The man isn’t looking to do what is right, he is killing himself and becoming what the woman wants him to be. The man becomes nothing more than a conquest to the woman, and becomes subject to her authority.
The feminist movement, or at least the modern form, is all about granting authority over men and other individuals. Nowhere does the bible state that men are to have authority over women, nor does it encourage the creation of an authority. It does say you should submit to governing authorities. While it also says that there is no authority other than God.
So you should not get married, men more specifically, because the current legal system and societal norms are setup in such a way to give women authority over the men they marry. You don’t even have to be legally married for the woman to have authority over you. The legal system is such that if she isn’t the biblical wife and isn’t legally married, she still has many different ways to take your life.
Neither spouse, not the man or the woman, have authority over the other as there is no authority but God.